Couples & Relationship Therapy
Love isn’t enough. We also need tools.
We are wired for connection, love, and intimacy, and life is also full of change and conflict. During those times, we need tools to navigate our relationships.
We get hurt in relationships, and we also heal in relationships.
Relationships are often the foundation of our lives and we get little to no formal training on what it means to start, grow, and nourish a relationship. The result is that we end up hurting each other and getting hurt ourselves, often unintentionally, redirecting entire life paths.
The good news is that there are ways to move into deeper connection and authenticity, process the pain, and find healing and the ability to move forward.
“The essence of true love is mutual recognition—two individuals seeing each other as they really are.”
— bell hooks
If you’re feeling stuck and disconnected in your relationship, counseling can help.
Whether you’re experiencing conflict with your romantic partner, a family member, friend, or coworker, working with a counselor can help you get unstuck and find deeper connection and understanding.
There are myriad ways that our connection becomes disrupted in relationship—communication pitfalls, past wounds and traumas, attachment issues, abusive behavior, substance-use issues—but there are also a multitude of ways of overcoming these disruptions to find healing.
Through this work we may discover:
The conditions needed for a relationship to grow and thrive, based on the research.
How you make contact and break contact with one another.
Awareness of emotional regulation and dysregulation.
Communicating more directly and assertively.
Ways in which your past wounds, upbringing, and your model for relationships affect your current relationship.
How to fight better and have conflict without causing lasting damage.
How to repair after conflicts and ruptures.
Renegotiating the terms of your relationship as you grow and change.
Relationship is the space that exists between me and you. How we take care of that space determines the quality of our relationships.
